This is probably ironic for me to say, because I use both facebook and Instagram for business, but in my opinion social media is bad for our self-confidence. I thank my lucky stars that all this wasn’t around when I was an insecure teenager. Hell, it’s bad enough seeing perfect bodies all over the net as a self-assured, confident woman! In my day (haha, because I’m so old), I only had school peers, women at the mall, celebrities and maybe the odd magazine model to compare myself to. Wow have things changed!
I’ll be honest; I spend quite a bit of time on social media (pretty sure I spend TOO much time on social media but that’s a whole other blog topic). I love Facebook for keeping up with, and updating, family. And I really enjoy perusing Instagram for things I’m interested in: yoga, tattoos, Pilates, tattoos, work outs, kids clothes, healthy meal ideas and tattoos. It’s impossible though, to ignore all the seriously amazing bodies. It’s so common now for men and women to share practically naked pics of themselves on social media. And it’s impossible to not compare myself to their perfection and find myself lacking.
Whilst I would never claim to be anywhere near in the same league as these many amazing bodies, I do post pics of myself (tasteful, subject appropriate ones, like the one above! Haha!). So let me tell you what goes into creating pictures I deem good enough to post:
I have noticed a trend recently which I find inspiring. More and more fitspo’s are being more real; showing that they have rolls when bending over (shock horror) or baggy skin or stretch marks. It’s great to know they’re human and like us have imperfections. I too show my flaws but I keep those posts limited to Mojo Mums facebook group which is open for any mumma who’s looking for support and fitness inspiration to join.
Join my group -> https://www.facebook.com/groups/MojoMums/
Maybe if we spent half as much time focusing on our positives as we do wishing we were like others, we’d all have a healthier body image. It’s something I’m really mindful of these days. I know I have so much to be grateful for that it’s crazy to let my flaws upset me. For instance, my less than perky boobs (thanks breastfeeding) have really been affecting my self-confidence lately. Even though I know full well that many of the fitspo chics I follow have fake boobs I still feel like something is wrong with me. And you know what? For a brief time I was thinking “would I look good with a boob job? Would they make me feel better about myself?” Then I slapped myself and told myself I DON"T HAVE TO BE PERFECT!
In a nut shell, I just want you to know that we are all perfectly flawed. Maybe if we spent half as much time focusing on our positives as we do comparing ourselves to others, we’d all have a healthier body image. Social media is a great and fun thing but we can't let the images we see effect us or take them too seriously. You’re beautiful baby, now go conquer the world.