If we all accepted ourselves, and loved ourselves more, I wonder if the diet and weight loss industry would even exist. And would it mean the end of the yo-yo diet? And the end of the vicious weight loss and weight gain battle?
I’ve seen it in myself and many others over the years. Chances are you’ve been on a diet or weight loss plan at some time in your life too. Or maybe you’re looking to start one. Well I’m here to tell you, that they just don’t work!!!!! I don’t know what the actual figures are but I bet as little as 1 out of 1,000 people who lose weight on a diet keep it off. Maybe it’s 1 out of 10,000??!!! We see this pattern of yo-yo dieting in celebrities, people we know and, if you’ve gone though it too, we see it in ourselves.
So, what if we just never started the cycle??? Mine started with my first ever diet when I was 21 years old. Like any bride to be, I wanted to lose weight for my wedding the following year. I lost about 8 kilos, only to put it straight back on after the honeymoon (plus some!). The failure I felt from this weight gain sent me on a path of self-destruction and a decade of disordered eating. Thankfully, I’ve well and truly broken that cycle for myself and I learnt some amazing things along the way. But not everyone is so lucky.
Recently, I was having a tearful heart to heart with someone I love dearly. She’s a big girl and has been her whole adult life. She was telling me how no diets have ever worked for her, she always ends up heavier than when she started, and now she’s considering stomach staple surgery as a last resort. I wish I could go back in time with all the knowledge I have now and convince her to never start that very first diet. How different would her life now be?
It was as a perfectly healthy sized teen that low self-esteem (pretty sure thanks to her bloody mother) drove her to that first diet. She lost weight, and then put it back on PLUS some. So she did another diet and lost weight, and then put it back on PLUS some more. And so on. This is a cycle that’s familiar to millions of people around the world.
I distinctly remember my own mother dieting and battling with her weight when I was a kid. I remember her meal replacement shake diet, her beetroot diet, her grapefruit diet and even the cabbage diet! She always told me “I just want to be slim and beautiful again”. I wonder how different her very unhappy adult life would’ve been if she’d focused on accepting herself more and looking for ways to nourish her body instead of always fighting against it.
So what do we do about it? We don’t friggin diet that’s what! We be thankful for every day we have on this earth with people we love and we put our energy into better things.
I’m not by any means saying eat crap and don’t exercise. But I am saying that maybe if we switch our focus to loving the skin we’re in and nourishing our bodies with good food and moving our bodies regularly with energizing exercise and movement, that the diet industry would be so unnecessary it would just disappear. Us personal trainers would still have jobs of course, we’re completely necessary (we help people exercise safely after all) but we we’d no longer be asked by clients “What do you think of this or that diet?”
Next week, I turn 38 years old and ya know what? I’ve never felt better in my skin than I do now. The pic I've included with this blog is me, post work out, zero make up, and generally just feeling happy! I truly believe it’s possible to look and feel good by eating good food when you’re hungry, enjoying treats when you want them, and by moving your body with love and kindness. But the first step is being blown away by how amazing you are, just the way you are.
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